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This is our last episode for 2009, which is really quite amazing. I've been doing this show, every week, for over two years now, and we've been podcasting since September of 2008. that means that this is now our 67th episode, and I really want to thank all of those who have helped make this possible. So, a huge thanks to Kathleen Spitzer, Amanda Komisarek, Julia Passamonti-Colamartino, Darla and PJ, Heather, and each and every one of the guests that we've had on our show.


Above and beyond that, I want to thank all the listeners … the feed back that I get from you is part of what keeps me doing this. So, thank you, and keep sending that feedback along, your questions, comments, whatever it is. And if you can go to podcastalley.com and vote for the show, that always helps too.


I also want to thank those who support the station. Without their help, WSCA wouldn't stay on the air, and this show would be dramatically different. And having mentioned that,


Underwriting.


Often, I'm joined by Julia, but she lives about an hour away from here, and the weather seems pretty New England-ish at the moment, so she won't be live in the studio tonight. But she'll join us in her Mystic Moment segment.


Speaking of the weather ….


Weather report


I was reading the Wild Hunt Blog today, and it seems that United Airlines might be in the news, and a number of pagans are considering a boycott. Following the link from Wild Hunt, to the original letter, I couldn't help but feel a bit outraged over the treatment of a fellow veteran and pagan. Here's the letter:


Hello, this is Jessie from ADF Regalia.

Greetings fellow Neopagans,

I have a story to tell and I hope that you will pass this on to as many other Neopagans, New Age spiritualists, humanitarians or people you know who believe that no person should be harassed or discriminated against based on their religious beliefs.

In August I filed a complaint against an employee of United Airlines who verbally attacked me for my religious beliefs. To date United Airlines and their subcontractor Airserve Corporation, have not made any efforts to alleviate the pain and humiliation I experienced.

I had been traveling through Chicago on my way home to California when this incident occurred. I was waiting for a wheelchair to preboard my plane, but the attendant arrived too late to preboard me, despite the fact that I had asked him several times to ensure he returned for me on time. He then got another attendant who asked me to pray with him and give up my burdens to god.

I am not a Christian and I informed him that I am the minister of a Druid congregation and then asked to change the topic.

At this point he became confrontational and got down in my face; he began to quote scriptures at me and was so vehement that he sprayed spit in my face. He told me I would go to hell, quoted scriptures about false idols and told me that I would be a better person with his god in my life.

I am a disabled veteran of the united states Army and a veterans advocate, I volunteer my time at a transitional house for formerly homeless veterans, I do work in my local municipal park, I contribute my time on our local Homeless Task Force. How DARE he say I could be a better person with his god in my life. How DARE he imply that I wasn’t a good person just because I’m not a Christian? I give so much to my community and no one I know would say that I am not a kind and generous person.

He continued to tell me that his god would help me rise above my disabilities. I hold a Masters degree in Psychology, I am actively involved in my community and my faith, I have hundreds of friends all over the world, I am a well-adjusted, well-educated and well-liked person. I’d say I’ve risen above them already WITHOUT HIS GOD. How presumptuous!

Most people at this point would have walked away.

However, I take muscle relaxers when I fly and since this was a connecting flight I was already unable to walk, hence the need for the wheelchair. At this point he began strapping me into the aisle chair. For those who don’t know, this is a chair the put you in to take you down the aisle of the plane when you can’t walk. He continued to lecture me, with hate in his eyes the whole time.

He was incredibly aggressive, hostile and intimidating and there was NOTHING I could do.

I called to the flight attendant on duty for help but she ignored my requests. Finally, the other passengers, who were also waiting to board, became so disturbed by his behavior that they insisted on letting me board before them. Remember that we were already half-way through boarding at the time because they had failed to pre-board me in accordance with FFA regulations.

He got me on board and into my seat. Before he left I told him that he needed to remember that not all his passengers will be Christian and that there are many paths to sprit. He said, very vehemently, “yes, but there is only one God.” I immediately wrote down his name and as many details as I could remember from the confrontation in my planner.

United's employee violated my civil rights as a human being and US citizen and he also exercised unfair power over a disabled US Army veteran who had no way to remove herself from the situation. I felt threatened, humiliated, and alone.

As a result of the employee's abuse I have sought counseling to discuss the distress that I still feel over this incident. I’ve been a Pagan for 18 years and have NEVER been harassed or discriminated against because of my religion before. So this came as a complete shock to me.

When I returned home I filed a complaint on United’s website. I received a return call and was told that no one by that name worked for them. I was then referred to the Airport complaint line who referred me to the City of Chicago, who said they’d look into it. I also filed a complaint with the ACLU (with little success), the DOT Aviation Consumer Protection Division, and the FAA.

DOT investigated and so did the city of Chicago. I was later told by the city of Chicago that the employee worked for Airserve corp., a subcontractor of United. I contacted Airserve and was told that they had investigated the situation and had fired the employee because of his actions.

However, neither United nor the contractor, Airserve corp, has offered any restitution for the humiliation I experienced. United claims to have sent me a certificate for a new flight (no amount has been indicated) but I have NEVER received it and wouldn't fly with them again if my life depended on it. All I want is my ticket refunded, a small price to pay for the horrendous treatment I received.

I want to send a very clear message that United can not allow its employees to harass customers, no matter their religion, particularly helpless ones that can not remove themselves from the situation.

I am a Neopagan Druid and proud of it. No one in our nation should walk in fear that they will be harassed or discriminated against because of their religious beliefs. Especially the helpless who can not defend themselves against hate and prejudice. This was HATE, pure and simple. United and Airserve, you owe me a formal apology and I expect to be compensated for my pain and suffering at the hands of your employee.

To anyone out there reading this, if you’ve been harassed or discriminated against because of your religious beliefs, STAND UP! I don’t care if you are Wiccan, Buddhist, Sikh, Christian, Druid, Muslim, Jewish or any other religion. You deserve to be treated with respect and so do I.

If you believe in religious freedom I urge you to join me in boycotting United Airlines and their affiliates. If you think you can help me with my case against them, or have a similar case, please let me know.

Blessings and thank you,


Rev. Jessie "Medb" Olson


So, there isn't much I can add to that. I'm going to try to get in touch with Jessie and see how this continues to play out.


Anyway, this week we're going to be talking a bit about gift-giving. Why do we give gifts? What are the spiritual implications of gift-giving? Why do we sometimes feel compelled to give back when we receive, and why does receiving a gift sometimes feel very uncomfortable?


We'll look at these things as the show continues.

And now it's time for our PaganFM Almanac.


PaganFM! almanac, 122609

Today is December 26, 2009. It's the 360th day of the year.

 

The waxing moon is currently in Taurus.

Today is the celebration of Kwanzaa.  This is an African-American celebration dedicated to unity, self-determination, collective work and responsibility, cooperative economics, purpose, creativity and faith.

 

Monday, the 28th will see a void moon at 12:54 pm, which enters Gemini at 8:13 pm.

 

On Wednesday, the 30th, the moon is void at 3:29 pm, and enters Cancer at 9:54 pm.

 

Thursday will witness a full moon, a blue moon, and a lunar eclipse at 2:13 pm.
 


 December 31:

It's the Festival of Hogmanay. Hogmanay is the Scots word for the end of the year, and is a fire festival that typically lasts through the first or second day of January. Hogmanay is a fire festival, with roots in the Norse celebrations of Yule, aspects of Saturnalia, and some pieces of tradition from the Celtic Samhain as well.

One particulart tradition of Hogmanay is "first-footing", in which one hopes to be the first to cross another's doorstep, thus bringing luck to the home being visited. This is often accompanied with the bringing of gifts. It is considered that a dark-haired male will bring the best fortune, while an individual with red hair was not seen as propitious.

 

It was on this day in 1610 that the Castle of the Countess of Barthory of Hungary was raided. She was accused of practicing black magic, murdered scores of local townsfolk, and was walled up in a room in her castle, where she died.

 

January1:

The moon will be void at 10:43 am and enters Leo at 9:41 am.

 

It's Birthday of anthropologist and folklorist Sir James Frazier, 1854 in Glasgow Scotland. (5), (6)

Frazier theorized that all religions began as a belief in magic, with man hoping to control his environment through sympathetic magic. As man’s understanding grew, he progressed to religious dogma, which is ultimately abandoned for science. His work The Golden Bough is a much sought after work by neo-Pagans, who find in it many descriptions of religious practices by untouched civilizations and early peoples.

 

The Golden Bough went through its own history and scandals. Originally published in two volumes in 1890, it grew to a massive 12 volumes in the third edition (1906 – 1915). Frazer had proposed that even the story of Christ was a recapitulation of more ancient pagan religions.

 

The abridged edition (itself more than 800 pages) of the Golden Bough, published in 1922 did not contain the more troubling comments on Christianity, but these were replaced in the Oxford University Abridged edition by Robert Frazer in 1994.



If you would like me to list an event, please email me at dee@paganfm.com

Any event submitted must include the following:

Event name,
Event date,

Event location,
Contact person,
Contact phone number or email address,
Description of event,

Your email address and / or telephone number.

I will not post any event that I'm unable to confirm, nor events that I don't believe would be of interest to PaganFM! listeners. The earlier that you can get an event to me, the better.

 

Ongoing, weekly:

Prayer Requests

Every Sunday
Time: 8:00 pm - 10:00 pm
Location: Your own home
Notes: Please answer this request post stating your reason for healing energy and/or prayers sent your way. Prayer requests can be asked for other than healing and for other than yourself.
A white candle will be lit for you on Sunday unless you request another color to be used. This is a group event so the more people involved the better. Feel free to join sending out energy. Always keep in mind that requests are always done for the highest good of all concerned. This may mean the outcome may be different than we hope for. The spiritual healing work we do is designed to work in harmony with other treatment modalities, not as a subsitute.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/NEPagansAndWitches


Repeating event:
2nd Saturday of each month
New Hampshire Seacoast Pagans have their monthly meeting at Karnan House in Portsmouth, from 2:00 to 6:00.
This is an informal gathering for Pagans. Most of us are from the Portsmouth Seacoast area, but all are welcome. We provide free coffee and tea, and usually somebody will bring some food. There’s no agenda – just hanging out, networking and good conversation.
For more information about this event, visit:
http://nhspagans.numachi.com


First Tuesday Drum & Chant Circle

Meets the First Tuesday of each month
in the
Misty Meadows Learning Center

7:30-9 PM

Misty Meadows Herbal Center
183 Wednesday Hill Rd.
Lee, NH 03861

603-659-7211


The Second Thursday of each month...

Pagan Pizza Party!
This is an of pagans of all sorts who wish to get together for a social evening and for networking. We'll gather at La Festa Pizza in Dover, the 2nd Thursday of each month for great pizza and great conversation. The next gathering will be January 14, from 7:00 to 9:00 pm.

The past gathering, this week was great ... each month, new people show up and we always have a great time.

For info, email dee@paganfm.com










Gwiddon De Bedwin Stryd at Gardenias [Witchvox Sponsor] presents...

Winter Solstice Circle & Celebration

Dec. 21st. 2009
 Derry, New Hampshire

Winter Solstice Circle & Celebration

Event Details: Winter Solstice
It marks the shortest day of the year, also called Yule. Winter Solstice is linked to the birth and rebirth of the sun. This day is associated with the Holly King, who is slain by his brother the Oak King. From this point on, the days grows longer until the Summer Solstice.

The circle is at 7pm. Please arrive by 6:45. The circle will be held outside, so please wear weather appropriate attire. The Adult Yankee Swap will follow after circle. If you would like join in, the gift is $20 limit. A gift is required for each person planning to join the Swap. If you plan to bring children under 12, please bring a gift for them to open.

Location: Gardenias Bookstore 11 Birch St. in Derry
 Circle at 7 (arrive by 6:45) Yankee Swap to follow

Phone: (603) 432-3977

Website: http://www.mygardenias.com


Crescent Moon Herbals presents...

After Holiday Open House

Dec. 27th. 2009
 Lebanon (Maine) , New Hampshire

After Holiday Open House

AFTER HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE

Free Tea Tasting at 1 p.m.
Come in and enjoy with us the variety of teas and snacks we have to offer.

Roxie will offer Tea Leaf Readings from 11-1 p.m. & 1:30-4 p.m.

Free Hand, Foot & Shoulder Massages with Tanya

76 Center Road in Lebanon (Maine)
Dec 27 11 - 4 p.m.

Phone: (207) 457-1114

Website: http://www.crescentmoonherbals.com
Address: 76 Center Road, Lebanon, ME 04027


Gwiddon De Bedwin Stryd at Gardenias

New Moon Circle

Jan. 13th. 2010 
Derry, New Hampshire

New Moon Circle

New Moon Esbat
A time to take a break from the mundane world and to celebrate the young energies of the moon and practice magick for the purpose of joy, new beginnings, and the joy of life.

Imbolc Circle and Celebration
 Feb. 3rd. 2010 Derry, New Hampshire

 Imbolc
Known as the milk holiday, Imbolc is celebrated for the approach of spring and the promise of renewal. It is the first of the three Spring holidays.

The circle for Imbolc will be held at 8pm. Please arrive by 7:45. The circle will be held outside, so please wear weather appropriate attire. Celebration will follow circle.

Gardenias Bookstore 11 Birch St. in Derry
Class at 7pm. Circle at 8pm (please arrive by 7:45

 
Full Moon Circle

 Mar. 3rd. 2010
 Derry, New Hampshire

Full Moon Circle

 Full Moon Esbat
A time to take a break from the mundane and absorb the power and might of The Old Gods in their parental form, and practice magick for the purpose of strength, healing and love.

Gardenias Bookstore 11 Birch St. in Derry
 Class at 7pm. Circle at 8pm (please arrive by 7:45

Phone: (603) 432-3977

 http://www.mygardenias.com
 Gardenias Bookstore 11 Birch St. Derry, NH03038


Family, Friends, Lover, Yourself: Love Ritual

Jan. 23rd. 2010 at Myths and Maidens in  Manchester, New Hampshire

Love Ritual: Family, Friends, Lover, Yourself
 All of us have love and belonging needs, however, not all of us have those needs met. Some of us yearn for closer family relationships, others look to deepen existing friendships. Many look for the one that completes them and some need to learn how to love themselves. Join us in ritual as we find love within so that we may seek and find love without.

The Moon will be entering the second quarter - a Waxing Moon, perfect to work towards increasing the love that we all need within our lives. We will be working with the Heart Chakra - incorporating Rose Quartz, Malachite, and other stones and candles that will help us increase the love connection within and without that we all have. Let us work together and strengthen Love in all areas of our lives. All are welcome.

 189 Kelley Street in Manchester  7:00 pm


PantheaCon 2010

 Feb. 12th. 2010 - Feb. 15th. 2010
San Jose, California

Workshops, lectures, performances, rituals and vendors

2010 Theme: Back to Basics

Annual Pagan gathering of workshops, lectures, performances, rituals, drumming, dancing, costume contests, classes, and lots and lots of shopping!

Presenters can expect to find the applications open in about June or July 2009.

On line Registration for the Con will open in June. and closes Feb. 1; then you can register on site.

Information about 2009 is available at the PantheaCon website: www.pantheacon.com

Update 4/09: Programming Notes from the Ancient Ways newsletter: For 2010 they want to encourage a programming schedule that focuses on "skills needed for the next 50 years, things like survival skills, spinning or home gardens (as well as) discussions of what as Pagans we want to see for our society in the wake of this economic melt-down and what ways Pagans can help our friends and towns weather the current down-sizing of our consumer lifestyle. What do we do as a community for our elders, our inherited librarires, our unemployed or needy Pagan community members, as well as those of our greater communities. What kid of world can we as Pagans help develop with our reverence for nature?"

Do you have something to add to the 2010 program? Then go to the website and offer to teach, organize, lead a panel or otherwise help out.

Last year’s Greening of the Con made over $800 to offset carbon. It was lower than last year due to technical errors at Reg. We will provide the opportunity to donate to a carbon offset group again on site at PantheaCon.

Location: TBA (working on contract w/ Double Tree Hotel)

Phone: (510) 653-3244
www.pantheacon.com


So tonight, in our practical pagan segment, I want to talk a bit about gift-giving. At this time of year, so many of us are caught up in the frenzy of finding the perfect gift, of not appearing to be the tight-wad, but not embarrassing those we have given to by spending too much money. We expend so much energy on finding the actual gift, that we have forgot what the spirit of giving is all about.


I want to spend a little time on what, exactly a gift is. In our holiday mania, when we're giving, we are expecting something in return. Whether or not we admit it, if we have a holiday season, and we don't get something, we feel (at least most of us) slighted. If we can't afford to give what we want, we feel embarrassed. To get away from this let's look at what a gift really is.


On the surface, by definition, a gift is something that we offer to another as a token of friendship or love. It is something offered by virtue of a relationship that we have with another person. It represents our feelings in a physical form for that person. It's for this reason that many of us wish to take time to find something that conveys our feelings. It's for this reason that it's so difficult to buy something for someone that we don't know well. When we look for a present for another person, it can take a great deal of time. We want to find an object that embodies the feelings we have.


If we go to the malls and the department stores, we're confronted by signs and advertising that tells us that if we really want to express how we feel, the only way to do so is by parting with great sums of money. Our men are told that if they really love their women, to say it with diamonds and expensive jewelry. And women are given the suggestions of large screen televisions, or outfitting the “man cave”. If we listen to the retailers, we have to spend good deals of money to express a good deal of love.


But what are these objects really? If they are tokens of affection, can we really express that affection without resorting to the number of places to the left of the decimal as an indicator of the worth of that love?


We need to remember that our checkbooks are nothing but a numerical expression of our effort in our work endeavors. They are an added degree of separation between what we do and what we have. Our money is a representation of the effort we have put forth in our work lives.


This year, I made a number of the presents I gave. One was a macrame project for my parents … it's a hanging picture frame, in which a number of small frames will fit. I can add to it as they get more photographs. I did a few other projects too. To me, this sort of thing is far more direct. My own effort went into making these things. I probably could have spent money and purchased something from a store, but instead, I invested my time. One of my nieces saw what was given and asked me where I found the time to do these things. It impressed me that someone knows what things like this take, and that the effort behind it was recognized. If what we're giving is our time anyway, I think it makes sense to get involved directly.


So, presents are energy … but presents can also be challenges. In her book Runes, Theory & Practice, when she discusses Gebo, Galina Krasskova writes “In ancient Norse Societies (and in modern Heathenry), the dominant culture was a gift-giving one. In this context, gift-giving can be seen as a martial art. It can even be a form of violence in its own way. This is why the Havamal cautions us: ' 'Tis better not to give than to give too much, for a gift demands a gift.' Gift-giving creates intense bonds of obligation between people, and it can be used to reinforce social and familial roles and connections.”


As much as we try to avoid it, even if we say we don't expect a gift, or don't want one, if we're given a gift, we have a difficult time not feeling obligated to do the same in return, and this can be a difficult cycle to break. I remember years ago when I cut off a relationship with someone because I felt I was being given too many gifts, and couldn't respond in kind. I felt such pressure simply because someone wanted to show their love to me through the act of giving gifts. I don't know if it was my own lack of self worth at the time or what, but I recall the last time when I was at this person's house, and was given another wrapped present. I wasn't offended by it, but I felt such a sense of shame that I couldn't respond in the same way, that I left, without having opened the present. I know that this person was hurt, and I've been told that I insulted them. I believe I did. But there was so much wrapped up in the idea of a gift, that I, at that time, couldn't handle it. To me it felt that the return for these presents was a commitment that I had no way to give. I couldn't give back what I thought this person wanted.


I'm not sure if there is an easy way to offer a gift while letting the person who is receiving a gift know that the account is already balanced. I wonder if there is an easy way to offer something to somebody and let them know that you don't expect something in return, or more importantly, that they shouldn't feel a need to repay like for like. Probably most of us can remember the 2000 film pay it forward with Kevin Spacey, Hellen Hunt and Haley Joel Osment, but if you don't, Kevin Spacey was an English teacher, and he asked his students to come up with a project that would change the world they live in. Trevor, played by Haley Joel Osment, comes up with an idea to “pay it forward”. Rather than doing something in kind for someone who does something good for you, his idea was to simply do something nice for someone else, and ask them to do the same for someone else, to “pay it forward” rather than paying it back.


It seems that this movie, and the theme behind it have caught on, as I've had the opportunity to be on both ends of this sort of giving. It's a liberating feeling to be able to give without expectation of return, but it's a far more humbling experience to have something given to you, with the only requirement being that you do the same for someone else when you're able.


The gift-giving that we experience in the holiday seasons has become so formalized that even in our contemporary society we call it “exchanging gifts”. In an exchange, there is always recompense. Something is given “in exchange” for another. It's not a gift freely given and freely received … it's so formal, that it's almost a contract.


On the other hand, when you ask someone to “pay it forward, when they are able”, you are giving with the only expectation being that the world you live in will be a better place afterward. When all you get from the exercise is a chance to see a smile on another's face, the knowledge that you have made someone's day, or life better, that, to me, is the ultimate sense of offering a token of friendship, love or gratitude.


I don't think that there is an easy way to break the cycle of simply exchanging gift for gift in our society today. It might take quite a few generations before we can get away from the idea that we need to buy presents for each other during the holiday season. But I think that we can make a start by changing what the word gift means to each of us. I think that we can do this by the way we speak about gift-giving throughout the year.


We have become programmed to expect gifts at house-warming parties, at bridal and baby showers, at birthdays and Christmas. Certainly, some of these times might represent a special need. Darla, who is part of this program is expecting a baby soon, and obviously, with a new baby, she has certain items that she will need. So, her family and friends are coming together to help out. That is a sense of community gift-giving, where we recognize that one of us has a need, and we step up to the plate to support our loved ones. There, there is no sense of obligation, we don't expect things in exchange. This is an expression of love, and joy at the good fortune of another.


On the other hand, our society looks at weddings a bit different. How often do we hear about a bride who has been married numerous times, and people are almost loathe to offer another present? In this case, we're passing judgment; perhaps we feel put-upon to purchase something for someone we really don't want to give anything to.


I think that it would be great if we could give gifts with a sense of honesty, if we could give things that truly express our feelings and intentions, without feeling guilty for not giving when we mean not to. Perhaps that would be easier if we practiced the art of giving throughout the year, if we could give when we see another in need, or when we feel especially appreciative of something that was done for us. How might a friend feel if one day we call them and ask “what are you doing for supper tonight? Well, don't cook anything, and don't go out, I'll be there at six” and we show up ready to prepare a meal, or perhaps bring something we've already prepared?


Too often today, we use gifts as a way to sooth ourselves because we don't feel we've done enough for those we love or care for. We have become so busy in our work-a-day worlds that we resort to “saying it with flowers”. Our giving of gifts is now a penance for not spending enough quality time through the rest of the year. We give out of a sense of obligation or guilt.


Perhaps one of my resolutions this year might be to give with a spirit, a true spirit, of giving, with a sense that it's not the money I spend, but the effort I expend in building relationships that really makes a difference. I can buy things for people I care about. While walking through a department store, looking for things that I need, I can happen upon something that someone might really like, toss it into the basket, and wrap it up when I get home. Then I can save it for a birthday or Christmas, and enjoy the words “how thoughtful, thank you”, or I can actually spend time with these people.


I did get a reminder this year that I don't spend as much time with my family as I would like. I noticed a wound on my father's had when I was there at Christmas, and found that he had surgery for Carpal Tunnel syndrome a couple of weeks ago. I call them every now and again, but he never mentioned to me that he had surgery. Well, they are very Catholic, and I'm very … not, and there is also distance between us because I'm transgendered, but this made clear to me that if I want a closer relationship, given the distance we have, it's up to me to make that effort. I can't change their views … I can't make them comfortable calling me when they are in need. So, it's left to me to be there more often, it's up to me to put forth even more effort in being there, so I can know when something is happening. It's not my fault that my family doesn't communicate well, but it is my fault when I maintain that habit.


Part of gift-giving, as I said before, is maintaining a relationship, and that happens through communication and interaction. It involves in knowing another's needs, wants and desires. And I'm willing to bet that for most of us, the greatest gift we can offer each other is to simply be there when they are in need. One woman this year told me that the best present she had through the entire year was to have others with her to celebrate the Solstice. If we can't afford the time to simply be with each other, the gifts we offer in penance are going to be little solace to those whom we've robbed of our presence.



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